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I’m sorry do virgin women not wear lingerie on their wedding nights? Are they sluts as well?

I think maybe the problem is…

we’re all sitting here on our computers reblogging, trying to bring awareness to issues, maybe even giving money to these issues on occasion. Then we get to feel good about ourselves, and the issues slowly fall out of the media loop and public consciousness. The are never truly solved. The system remains unchanged. We did not take to the streets like our grandfathers. We did not march. We did not vote. We did not risk anything. We did not sacrifice anything. 

So many eloquent writers and so little activism. So many good articles that present great solutions to these issues but where are the politicians that will make them actually happen? 

At a lecture I was giving in a large West Coast university in the Spring of 2008, the female students talked extensively about how much they preferred to have a completely waxed pubic area as it made them feel “clean,” “hot” and “well groomed.” As they excitedly insisted that they themselves chose to have a Brazilian wax, one student let slip that her boyfriend had complained when she decided to give up on waxing. Then there was silence. I asked the student to say more about her boyfriend’s preferences and how she felt about his criticism. As she started to speak other students joined in, only now the conversation took a very different turn. The excitement in the room gave way to a subdued discussion on how some boyfriends had even refused to have sex with non-waxed girlfriends as they “looked gross.” One student told the group how her boyfriend bought her a waxing kit for Valentine’s Day, while yet another sent out an email to his friends joking about his girlfriend’s “hairy beaver.” No, she did not break up with him, she got waxed instead.

Two weeks after the waxing discussion, I was at an East Coast Ivy League school where some female students became increasingly angry. They accused me of denying them free choice in their embracing of our hypersexualized porn culture, and being the next generation’s elite women, this idea was especially repugnant because they saw no limits or constraints on them as women. Literally two minutes later, one of the students made a joke about the “trick” that many of them employ as a way to avoid hookup sex. What is this trick? These women purposely don’t shave or wax as they are getting ready to go out that night so they will feel too embarrassed to participate in hookup sex. As she spoke, I watched as others nodded their heads in agreement. When I asked why they couldn’t just say no to sex, they informed me that once you have a few drinks in you, and are at a party or a bar, it is too hard to say no. I was speechless, not least because they had just been arguing that I had denied them agency in my discussion of porn culture, and yet they saw no contradiction in telling me that they didn’t have the agency to say no to sex. The next day I flew to Utah to give a lecture in a small college, which although not a religious college, had a good percentage of Mormons and Catholics. I told them about the lecture the previous night and asked them if they knew what the trick was. It turns out that trick is everywhere, including Utah.

I tell this story because, on many levels, it neatly captures how the porn culture is affecting young women’s lives. The reality is that women don’t need to look at porn to be profoundly affected by it because images, representations, and messages of porn are now delivered to women via pop culture. Women today are still not major consumers of hard-core porn; they are, however, whether they know it or not, internalizing porn ideology, an ideology that often masquerades as advice on how to be hot, rebellious, and cool in order to attract (and hopefully keep) a man. An excellent example is genital waxing, which first became popular in porn (not least because it makes the women look pre-pubescent) and then filtered down into women’s media such as Cosmopolitan, a magazine that regularly features stories and tips on what “grooming” methods women should adopt to attract a man. Sex and the City, that hugely successful show with an almost cult following, also used waxing as a storyline. For instance, in the movie, Miranda is chastised by Samantha for “letting herself go” by having pubic hair.

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Staten Island man dies after NYPD cop puts him in chokehold — SEE THE VIDEO

A 400-pound asthmatic Staten Island dad died Thursday after a cop put him in a chokehold and other officers appeared to slam his head against the sidewalk, video of the incident shows.
“I can’t breathe! I can’t breathe!” Eric Garner, 43, repeatedly screamed after at least five NYPD officers took him down in front of a Tompkinsville beauty supply store when he balked at being handcuffed.
Within moments Garner, a married father of six children with two grandchildren, stopped struggling and appeared to be unconscious as police called paramedics to the scene. An angry crowd gathered, some recording with smartphones.
“When I kissed my husband this morning, I never thought it would be for the last time,” Garner’s wife, Esaw, told the Daily News.
She got no details from police until after she had gone to the hospital to identify his body, she said.
“I saw him with his eyes wide open and I said, ‘Babe, don’t leave me, I need you.’ But he was already gone,” she said.

and people wonder why black people don’t trust or have any love for cops. they murdered this man. this black man. and for what? fucking cigarettes. yea, WE’RE the fucking problem.
 






Nypd police are a plague on society.

  #how do you tag something so fucked up?
It’s easy actually

This happened not far from where I live. These cops are from the 120th precinct, and that precinct is notorious for this type of bullshit. It’s just that there usually isn’t video footage of their crimes. That said, this isn’t the first time they have killed before. One case that made the headlines back in the 90s was a young Black man they killed named Ernest Sayon. His parents were Liberian immigrants. Police said he “suffered a head injury” and just died at the hospital. No explanation. They said he was struggling and hit his head. The truth is that they viciously beat him up in his own apartment and he died because of it. People took to the streets in protest. The 120th precinct also has a holding cell and people have mysteriously died or committed suicide in there. These alleged suicides are always the same. Hanging in their cell. Those rarely make the news, and if they do, it doesn’t get coverage beyond the local Staten Island advance newspaper. Essentially, no one hears about it. If the victim has priors or is a felon, then you’ll definitely not here about it. Society tends to be uncaring towards victims who are felons.
The police here do “sweeps” where they will literally canvas a neighborhood and arrest dozens of Black men in the hopes that one of them has an outstanding warrant for something. They do it because they have quotas to fill. They are especially vicious in certain neighborhoods here like Park Hill, Stapleton, West Brighton, New Brighton, Tompkinsville, Arlington and Mariners Harbor. They operate like a gang. Also, plainclothes officers never identify themselves and they instigate on purpose. Conflicts arise because they never identify themselves as cops and they just start harassing people. People respond to what they rightfully assume is an attack and they arrest them for “assaulting an officer” and “resisting arrest”. They do whatever they like.
This is the reason why they were brazen about literally choking Eric Garner in public in broad day light. This is how they act and they get away with it. Staten Island is a bit different from the other 4 NYC boroughs. It’s the most outwardly hostile in terms of race relations. The North Shore is predominantly Black and Brown (though white people live here too). The South Shore is predominantly white. Black folks here know not to go to the South Shore alone, especially at night. Unless you’re a student athlete who plays football on one of the high school teams. Then you can bring your black ass over!
Outside of Black & Brown communities, the NYPD is heavily supported here. Every Italian and Irish person here seems to have a dad, brother, uncle, cousin or best friend who is a cop. Judges are their friends. District attorneys are their buddies. The guy who owns the local bar is the lieutenant’s brother-in-law. Some other guy’s grandfather knew the sergeant’s family back in the old country (Italy) etc. That’s how it goes. You’re just not going to win against these people. It’s a system and it goes beyond the cops. They’re all connected. The white folks here are compliant because these cops are their kin and they protect them at all costs, even when they kill.
Do you remember Justin Volpe? He was the cop who shoved a broomstick up Abner Louima's rectum. His crimes were so brutal that even he couldn't get away with it. Volpe is from Staten Island. He just worked at a Brooklyn precinct. Volpe got big time support here. His family is still here. They are “pillars of the community”.
I’ve been stopped and frisked here in the past so many times, particularly in the St. George area that one of the cops felt bad after a while because he realized he was stopping me all the time. The cops in the St. George area as well as the Staten Island ferry terminal with the K9 units are basically stationed there. The last time this cop stopped me, he just let me go. He didn’t do the routine pat down (including grabbing my junk), emptying my pockets, searching my bag and generally just wasting my time. I suppose he had some remnants of humanity left because he got ashamed that he was constantly harassing me. He was one of the “nice ones” I guess. His constant harassment and rummaging through my camera bag that yielded nothing but my camera and lenses embarrassed him. I never argue with cops (I’m not arguing with people that have guns), so even when they were rude and rough, I kept my cool. Plus, the St. George cops often have dogs. Not trying to get bit or shot.
I know the Staten Island cop mentality well. I went to school with them. I played football with and against them. All the degenerates, lowlifes, racists and scumbags I knew are now either cops or correction officers. The thing is this though, when you point this out, some apologist (always white) will start talking about how it’s “not all cops” and that some are good etc. This doesn’t matter. The system they serve is corrupt. They work with arrest quotas, which means they will violate and brutalize people to make numbers, including choking a man in broad day light until he dies.
I don’t expect anything major to happen to these cops that killed Mr. Garner. There will be an “internal investigation”, which just means their drinking buddies will overlook the case, maybe put them on desk duty or suspend them with pay. That’s how it goes.

atane:

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rissaisangry:

dglsplsblg:

Staten Island man dies after NYPD cop puts him in chokehold — SEE THE VIDEO

A 400-pound asthmatic Staten Island dad died Thursday after a cop put him in a chokehold and other officers appeared to slam his head against the sidewalk, video of the incident shows.

“I can’t breathe! I can’t breathe!” Eric Garner, 43, repeatedly screamed after at least five NYPD officers took him down in front of a Tompkinsville beauty supply store when he balked at being handcuffed.

Within moments Garner, a married father of six children with two grandchildren, stopped struggling and appeared to be unconscious as police called paramedics to the scene. An angry crowd gathered, some recording with smartphones.

“When I kissed my husband this morning, I never thought it would be for the last time,” Garner’s wife, Esaw, told the Daily News.

She got no details from police until after she had gone to the hospital to identify his body, she said.

“I saw him with his eyes wide open and I said, ‘Babe, don’t leave me, I need you.’ But he was already gone,” she said.

and people wonder why black people don’t trust or have any love for cops. they murdered this man. this black man. and for what? fucking cigarettes. yea, WE’RE the fucking problem.

 

Nypd police are a plague on society.

  #how do you tag something so fucked up?

It’s easy actually

This happened not far from where I live. These cops are from the 120th precinct, and that precinct is notorious for this type of bullshit. It’s just that there usually isn’t video footage of their crimes. That said, this isn’t the first time they have killed before. One case that made the headlines back in the 90s was a young Black man they killed named Ernest Sayon. His parents were Liberian immigrants. Police said he “suffered a head injury” and just died at the hospital. No explanation. They said he was struggling and hit his head. The truth is that they viciously beat him up in his own apartment and he died because of it. People took to the streets in protest. The 120th precinct also has a holding cell and people have mysteriously died or committed suicide in there. These alleged suicides are always the same. Hanging in their cell. Those rarely make the news, and if they do, it doesn’t get coverage beyond the local Staten Island advance newspaper. Essentially, no one hears about it. If the victim has priors or is a felon, then you’ll definitely not here about it. Society tends to be uncaring towards victims who are felons.

The police here do “sweeps” where they will literally canvas a neighborhood and arrest dozens of Black men in the hopes that one of them has an outstanding warrant for something. They do it because they have quotas to fill. They are especially vicious in certain neighborhoods here like Park Hill, Stapleton, West Brighton, New Brighton, Tompkinsville, Arlington and Mariners Harbor. They operate like a gang. Also, plainclothes officers never identify themselves and they instigate on purpose. Conflicts arise because they never identify themselves as cops and they just start harassing people. People respond to what they rightfully assume is an attack and they arrest them for “assaulting an officer” and “resisting arrest”. They do whatever they like.

This is the reason why they were brazen about literally choking Eric Garner in public in broad day light. This is how they act and they get away with it. Staten Island is a bit different from the other 4 NYC boroughs. It’s the most outwardly hostile in terms of race relations. The North Shore is predominantly Black and Brown (though white people live here too). The South Shore is predominantly white. Black folks here know not to go to the South Shore alone, especially at night. Unless you’re a student athlete who plays football on one of the high school teams. Then you can bring your black ass over!

Outside of Black & Brown communities, the NYPD is heavily supported here. Every Italian and Irish person here seems to have a dad, brother, uncle, cousin or best friend who is a cop. Judges are their friends. District attorneys are their buddies. The guy who owns the local bar is the lieutenant’s brother-in-law. Some other guy’s grandfather knew the sergeant’s family back in the old country (Italy) etc. That’s how it goes. You’re just not going to win against these people. It’s a system and it goes beyond the cops. They’re all connected. The white folks here are compliant because these cops are their kin and they protect them at all costs, even when they kill.

Do you remember Justin Volpe? He was the cop who shoved a broomstick up Abner Louima's rectum. His crimes were so brutal that even he couldn't get away with it. Volpe is from Staten Island. He just worked at a Brooklyn precinct. Volpe got big time support here. His family is still here. They are “pillars of the community”.

I’ve been stopped and frisked here in the past so many times, particularly in the St. George area that one of the cops felt bad after a while because he realized he was stopping me all the time. The cops in the St. George area as well as the Staten Island ferry terminal with the K9 units are basically stationed there. The last time this cop stopped me, he just let me go. He didn’t do the routine pat down (including grabbing my junk), emptying my pockets, searching my bag and generally just wasting my time. I suppose he had some remnants of humanity left because he got ashamed that he was constantly harassing me. He was one of the “nice ones” I guess. His constant harassment and rummaging through my camera bag that yielded nothing but my camera and lenses embarrassed him. I never argue with cops (I’m not arguing with people that have guns), so even when they were rude and rough, I kept my cool. Plus, the St. George cops often have dogs. Not trying to get bit or shot.

I know the Staten Island cop mentality well. I went to school with them. I played football with and against them. All the degenerates, lowlifes, racists and scumbags I knew are now either cops or correction officers. The thing is this though, when you point this out, some apologist (always white) will start talking about how it’s “not all cops” and that some are good etc. This doesn’t matter. The system they serve is corrupt. They work with arrest quotas, which means they will violate and brutalize people to make numbers, including choking a man in broad day light until he dies.

I don’t expect anything major to happen to these cops that killed Mr. Garner. There will be an “internal investigation”, which just means their drinking buddies will overlook the case, maybe put them on desk duty or suspend them with pay. That’s how it goes.

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why do black women feel the need to wear weave?
Anonymous

theovarianbarbarian:

esteemsters:

black--lamb:

hmm

idk maybe because of shit like this

or this

……

*sigh*

noticing a trend….

instead of asking “why black women feel the need to wear weaves” let’s ask “why black women have been made to feel that they need a weave in the first place”….

for centuries the standard of beauty has not been that of the black woman…(we all know who i’m talking about)  instead we have been pushed to ‘conform’ to those standards without any second thoughts…i mean “white is right”…right….

black women are the only group of people  who have been unmercifully criticized for the hair that grows naturally from their scalp…we have been told that our natural locs are “uncivilized’ “ugly’ undesirable’…that in order to be anywhere near beautiful we’ll have to rock straight european hair or permanently straighten our own..it’s all psychological from years and years of conforming..sadly the ideas and stigmas still have an effect on black women of today… 

it’s sad that the number of us who have gone natural are looked up to as ‘being brave’ or ‘being a leader….the fact that black women even had to “go natural” shows how much we’ve fucked up and how society has brainwashed us into believing we are less than on the beauty scale because of something God blessed us with…

what’s even more saddening, is not only do black women have to deal with the ignorance of other races not understanding our hair, but we also have to deal with the comments of black men who have fallen into the “bash black hair’ trap….the cycle never ends…

Even though the stigma behind wearing a weave is thought to be fueled by self hatred, on the complete opposite side of the spectrum some women wear weaves to better their natural hair…the elements can be SO harsh on black hair and sometimes it just needs a break. wearing a weave helps maintain hair growth while protecting it from the weather for months at a time.

Also some black women just love to change up their looks every once in awhile and they do so by wearing a weave because it’s much easier than dying, growing, or cutting their natural hair…so let them have fun expressing themselves…

in my experience, i’ve had multiple white women strictly assume that black women wear weaves to “get like them” 

nope

nuh uh

don’t

flatter

 yourself

honey

i mean because

black

women

are

the only

ones

who

do

this shit

right?

Omg the last one

I feel like, white girls that say shit about black girls w weaves always have some fucked up ass weaves but black girls have really mastered the art of wearing weaves. Yall the shit! 

Bruh.

So I finally get the courage to un barricade me bathroom and look around. No sign of the roach. Relieved but still skeptical, I proceed to use the bathroom and shower without incident. Whew. “Maybe it found a hole and crawled back outside?” Whatever. THEN I GOT UP TO BRUSH MY TEETH JUST NOW. Brushing away. Latidah and bullshit, I LOOK FUCKING UP AND THE SHIT IS PEEPING ME FROM THE LEDGE OF MY HIGH ASS WINDOW. LOOKING DOWN ON ME LIKE A FUCKING CREEP EVIL GENIUS ABOUT TO POUNCE ON ME. I ran my ass out and slammed the door. I didn’t even turn the light off, fuck that shit. 

Never get tired of watching this. Sorry Bey, they did it better.